Men are taught to:

• control or be in control
• “score,” to achieve
• pursue goals
• discuss women’s body parts
• work as a team
• push themselves
• take risks and challenges
• make the rules
• be virile, act like a “MAN”
• put women on a pedestal
• expect to be served
• take charge
• belittle feminine things

Women are taught to:

• do what she is told
• be pleasing
• not hurt anyone’s feelings
• look good
• be taken care of
• compete for attention
• care for others first
• be nice, not make trouble
• be compliant, say “Yes”
• let others make the decisions
• expect someone else to make her happy
• be friendly, helpful; to be helpless
• expect others to “fix” things

We can choose to learn different messages than we were taught.